65. A Tool Kit to Everlasting Love w/The Engelharts

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Episode 65- How can we make our love relationships last and remain successful longterm? In this episode, we get some real and fresh insight into the question of making true love last from Matt and Terce Engelhart, founders of Cafe Gratitude & Gracias Madre & Be Love Farm. These two people have been married for a long time and given their lives to embody Love to the highest degree. We talk about letting the ego die and abandoning all  expectations in order to be a servant to Love. Hear Matt and Terce tell us their tips, tricks and fresh takes on everything about everlasting Love.

SHOW NOTES

WITH SPECIAL GUESTS TERCES AND MATT ENGLEHART, epic lovers of life and founders of Cafe Gratitude & Gracias Madre & Be Love Farm and Amber's parents-in-law! They have written 6 books and led many workshops about relationships and sacred commerce, they have 5 children and 11 grandchildren, and dedicate their lives to embodying love.

​DEFINITION of A TOOLKIT FOR EVER LASTING LOVE: Ever lasting love is something we often hear about, but less often see true embodied examples of. What is the secret to a sustainable love relationship that includes a joint mission, a successful family unit, a long lasting romance, and a fulfilling partnership? Today, we will hear from such a couple, and try to extract their secrets.
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MAIN POINTS:

• Terce defines love as "willing the best for another person."
• "Love has a way of asking everything of you, so it can give everything to you."
• Matt defines love as, "Love is being present and fully engaged with what one is perceiving, at the same time, honoring a request to serve." and/or "Love is the experience of God within."
• Love lives within us and overflows. Be obedient to Love.
• Love doesn't bring up the past. Love is not a manipulation.
• Most people think Love is their own expectations. Love has no needs. If you are coming from a place of "I'm not getting my needs met" then you are not coming from Love, you are coming from ego.
• Love is mystical death in action, you are always dying to your ego when living as Love.
• Hear Matt and Terce's personal experiences!

Want more? Check out this book that Matt and Terce wrote about relationships!--->Kindred Spirit: Fulfilling Love's Promise by Matthew & Terces Engelhart

• Jesus is a great teacher of Love! Follow His lead!
• The highest calling is fighting for Love. It is much more difficult to live a life of Fear.
• Use the tool of prayer. We can pray if we fall from Love.
• Love is a supernatural power, so all the angels, guides, ascended masters and all the buddhas are routing for you to live your life Love.
• "When a defect dies, a virtue is born."
• Check in with your partner, and listen to their response: "Babe, how am I doing at being your partner?"

MATT AND TERCE ALSO WROTE THIS BOOK!: Sacred Commerce: Business as a Path of Awakening

• When there is a problem happening with one parter, the other partner should just hold space for them, instead of trying to fix it or coach them.
• Not taking things personally.
• Either you are responsible for yourself or you are a victim.
• If you are in a "wound on wound" moment in your relationship, one person (at least) must humble themselves and apologize.
• Choose Love over "being right".
• "Ask for what you want and are grateful for what you receive."
• Use requests, transparency and affirmations to keep the relationship on track.
• Matt and Terce run a relationship workshop (for all relationships) called Kindred Spirits. Check it out for more relationship guidance from Matt and Terce.

​THANK YOU TERCES AND MATT! Follow Terces on Instagram, eat at Cafe Gratitude or Gracias Madre, or book a farm stay at Be Love Farm to bathe in Love energies and get back to the Earth.
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​CHALLENGE/INVITATION: Pick one of the tools that Matt and Terce discussed that you want to exercise in your life and relationship.

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What has been your experiences with making your relationship last? Do you have any tips or tricks to add? Let us know EVERYTHING in the comments!