11. Relationship Hack: Love Languages

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Episode 11- Do you feel unfulfilled in your relationship? Do you know what "Love Language" you speak? Or what "Love Language" your partner speaks? If not, you could be missing the mark in how best to make, give and receive love. Find out more as Amber and Jenna discuss their own experiences and how understanding Love Languages can be crucial in improving relations with the ones you love. 

Show Notes

DEFINITION of LOVE LANGUAGES: (taken from Gary Chapman): Love Languages are different ways that people want to receive love in order to feel fulfilled. In other words, different people need to be shown love in different ways. If you are not feeling seen or heard by your partner (or visa versa), then you may want to think about what language of love you each speak.

The 5 major Love Languages: 

1. Words of Affirmation- Expressing affection through spoken words
2. Acts of Service- Actions rather than words
3, Gifts- Gifting is symbolic of love
4. Quality Time- Expressing affection through undivided attention
5. Physical Touch- Feels affection through physical touch

MAIN POINTS

• Of course, everyone likes to be spoken to in every Love Language, but there is usually a certain one(s) which you NEED just to feel ok in your relationship.
• You could not be getting the right love language...
• OR you could not be giving the right love language...
• Do you know your own Love Language?
• Do you know your partner's Love Language?
• Does your partner know your Love Language?
• Not receiving your own Love Language in your relationship can cause all sorts of problems.
• Resentment and passive aggressive behavior bubbles up because deep down, you don't feel fulfilled.
• Love Languages are a communication issue, you don't want your love to be lost in translation.
• It is hard to focus on your mission (your heart path, your purpose in life) when energy is being wasted in miscommunication and heartache over giving/receiving love.
• Talk about this with your partner.
• DON'T FORGET TO SPEAK TO YOURSELF IN YOUR OWN LOVE LANGUAGE

There is a 30 question quiz that you can take to find out your love language. Find it here.

CHALLENGE: Sit down with your partner, and each write down what your own and your partner's love language is, and then see if you both guessed correctly! Then make sure in the future, you are speaking to your partner in their love language at least once a day.

What is your love language? Let us know in the comments!